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Want to learn to teach consent? Consent Educator Training starts 9/16.

When I started teaching consent in 2020, I had two things on my mind:

•           Consent has changed my life so rapidly for the better that I want to share it as widely as I can

•           How can I contribute to my community from home in lockdown?

I was concerned people would mistake me for a therapist and looked at grad programs on consent. I found none. I decided I had to build the training I was looking for because it didn't yet exist.

I worked through a lot of imposter syndrome, asking why I thought certain trainings and certifications were legitimate, who deemed them such, and why those paths were gatekept and so expensive. I prioritized my own experience and told my own story. I got on my own side, became my own cheerleader. My goal was to make this information that had found so groundbreaking as digestible and accessible as possible. My Instagram page is the fruits of that labor. Classes took off and I built the business you see today.

As my follower count grew, a strange new phenomenon started. I was starting to be seen as a guru or a leader in a way that caused people to defer to my judgment on even the topic of themselves and their own experience. I was looked to for what's right and held to a standard no one should be held to. I was told I "should know better" when I made mistakes. I was seen as the man in a business sense because I was charging money. I was told I should do this work for free, on a page full of encyclopedic knowledge, all free.

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