POV: You have just participated in canceling someone

Unblocked Again: Making Art amidst Cancel Culture Edition starts 5/26.

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First, you will feel part of something. You will feel that you’ve done “The Right Thing,” or at least that other people will stamp you with their approval. You’ve held someone accountable.

Over the next few weeks, your satisfaction will begin to glint with glimmers of doubt. You will wonder if you had the whole picture, behaved impulsively, reached into a situation in which you had zero standing. You may double down. You may repress these doubts. You may be woken up by them in the middle of the night and try to assure yourself—convince yourself—that you did the right thing.

Over the next few months and years, as you see the same thing happen to people you know and love, you will feel new shades of embarrassment you didn’t know existed. You’ll cringe at your own behavior, realizing that this could happen to anyone, even to you.

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