We Both Got Too High and Had Sex Anyway

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My partner and I have an ongoing joke that I can’t get high anymore. We only say it when I’m gloriously, obviously, incredibly stoned.

A few months ago, we ate some edibles, as we often do. I then smoked some of a joint, and then…I can’t remember but I think I might’ve even eaten half another gummy. We started fooling around in the shower and things started to get weird for me. I was repeating myself and couldn’t really find the words to say what was in my head. I continued to get more and more high, as did he, as the edibles reached their full potential. We moved to the bed and I almost could no longer speak, unable to translate my thoughts into words. My body was feeling hyper sensitive, so things that normally feel good felt kinda like…nothing, or overstimulating really quickly. Because I couldn’t speak, I gave up and decided to just wait until it was over, somewhat crushed under his weight.

This sucks. It sucks for both of us. If I knew anyone was “waiting for sex to be over” with me, I’d be mortified and upset, and I knew he felt the same. I had told him previously that he could trust that I would say so if I ever didn’t like something or didn’t want something, and I hadn’t been able to do that. I felt I had betrayed that promise. I hated that I had put us both in that situation.

I think a common reaction to this story thus far is, “He should’ve been able to tell and stopped.” But he was also high out of his mind. When I asked about it later, having regained my speech, he said, “I had de ja vu the whole time and I felt like I had extra limbs.” We laughed about it.

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