Heteronormative roles and impulses don’t just fall away in queer relationships, as you say. We’re conditioned with them from childhood to adulthood and it takes intentional unlearning. Lots of lesbians don’t even know they’re lesbian because they’re so caught up in heteronormativity. Lots of queer people maintain masc fem gender roles because it’s what they think they’re supposed to do. Here’s an interesting podcast about that: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5sXQbKxxjtznbEvU3TCWkW?si=TZ_D_OkpRj29xl5oE-gLnw&context=spotify%3Aplaylist%3A37i9dQZF1FgnTBfUlzkeKt
I think you should be vigilant towards heteronormativity seeping into your consent work rather than assuming it just goes away because you’re queer.
Heteronormative roles and impulses don’t just fall away in queer relationships, as you say. We’re conditioned with them from childhood to adulthood and it takes intentional unlearning. Lots of lesbians don’t even know they’re lesbian because they’re so caught up in heteronormativity. Lots of queer people maintain masc fem gender roles because it’s what they think they’re supposed to do. Here’s an interesting podcast about that: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5sXQbKxxjtznbEvU3TCWkW?si=TZ_D_OkpRj29xl5oE-gLnw&context=spotify%3Aplaylist%3A37i9dQZF1FgnTBfUlzkeKt
I think you should be vigilant towards heteronormativity seeping into your consent work rather than assuming it just goes away because you’re queer.