Sitemap - 2024 - Unsolicited Advice from Mia Schachter

Incoming classes in 2025!

"Where" "am" "I"

I pitied her as I've been pitied

When we practice listening to our bodies, we practice honesty.

Meet my inner critic, Cheryl.

T asks, "How do you deal with giving up on commitments you made when they don’t align with your boundaries anymore, especially in group or work projects?"

Boundaries + Consent for People Pleasers Syllabus, Resources, and Assignments

What am I doing here? Looking for meaning?

6 Patterns in Early Consent Learning

People-Pleasing and the Importance of Knowing What We Want

“It’s almost like you didn’t know the book wasn’t finished yet.”

N asks, "How do we tell if something was either non-consensual or SA/rape and does the answer determine if this person can be forgiven and kept in one’s life?"

What should I do if she says, "You don't need to do all that consent stuff?"

What would you like to ask a consent educator?

The world is unprepared to hold sick people like me

One of the most radical and anti-capitalist things you can do is like yourself as you are.

A lifechanging word: Prosody

“You Can’t Fake Believe in God”

Today I got out of bed

The People Who Will Cancel You Agree with 99 Out of 100 Things You Say

"I want to write a book"

Boundaries + Consent Workbooks

Utterly unenthusiastic but totally consensual sex

Make a care plan

Special Episode: Virginia Woolf: Who is she writing for? (Or, for whom is she writing?)

Consent + Grief

Virginia Woolf: Who is she writing for? (Or, for whom is she writing?)

You were born without your permission, after all.

You can't feel my itch

Brooks on Grief and OCD

I’m a cancel kid in recovery, you could say

“It’s almost like you didn’t know the book wasn’t finished yet.”

Daddy?

If you're too frozen to create for fear of Cancel Culture, this one's for you...

You’ve made people uncomfortable and they haven’t told you.

Resetting Places That Hurt

We got too high and had sex anyway

The Down Side of Being a “Thank You for Telling Me” Person

I'm the most frequent violator of my own consent

Learn to teach consent and other upcoming classes at CW

“If you can’t talk about sex, you shouldn’t be having sex.”

We Both Got Too High and Had Sex Anyway

More diagrams

I Am An On Set Intimacy Coordinator – And It Has Helped Me Embrace My Shy Self In Bed

Invite your friends to read Consent Wizardry Newsletter

Relationships impede autonomy. So does having a plant.

Consent is a shared responsibility

It’s Lonely Up Here

My needs don’t change because of someone else’s needs

Some Diagrams on Boundaries and Consent

Looking to social media for prophets of your own privately curated religion

Making the Unconscious Conscious

Regret ≠ Blame

Moving from, "They should ask" to "I trust myself to voice and hold my boundaries" has made my life so much better.

Weaving 1

You will definitely abuse the power you refuse to acknowledge you have.

Consent as a Weapon of Control

What Is Consent?

Ryan Gosling Is My Neighbor

The People Who Will Cancel You Agree with 99 Out of 100 Things You Say

My Approach to Intimacy Coordination

There’s Only Seven of Us

How to do consent without sounding like a robot

How to Read a How-to Article

Consent Won’t Save Us

My needs don't change because of your needs

If I want people to believe that I can change, I have to be willing to believe that others can change

FOMO as a Manifestation of the Pursuit of Perfectionism

Undiagnosed gut issues made me a stoner with disordered eating

Commitment as a Relationship with Past Versions of You

6 Patterns in Early Consent Learning

Charlie James on Just Doing Stuff

Make Dumb Shit

Rabbi Aaron Leven on having a calling and the symbolic exemplar

Consent + Creativity: an Unexpected Link

Brad Stops By

Repentance Rituals + Cancel Culture

The Down Side of Being a “Thank You for Telling Me” Person

Good Person Complex

Making Money ≠ Capitalism

The Limitations of Requiring Enthusiasm in Sex and Beyond

“If you can’t talk about sex, you shouldn’t be having sex.”

The One About Incest

Unblocked: Sam Sundius on Undiscipline

Unblocked: Kiana Elkins on Conflict and Loving Practice

Hannah Said on Coffee and Community

Literal Violence

Unblocked: Josie Alexandra

People Pleasing, Regret, and Fingers in Butts

Louisa Pillot on Consent and Music